Fix instance vs callable subtyping/assignability (#18260)
## Summary
Fix some issues with subtying/assignability for instances vs callables.
We need to look up dunders on the class, not the instance, and we should
limit our logic here to delegating to the type of `__call__`, so it
doesn't get out of sync with the calls we allow.
Also, we were just entirely missing assignability handling for
`__call__` implemented as anything other than a normal bound method
(though we had it for subtyping.)
A first step towards considering what else we want to change in
https://github.com/astral-sh/ty/issues/491
## Test Plan
mdtests
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Co-authored-by: med <medioqrity@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: Alex Waygood <Alex.Waygood@Gmail.com>
