Use Astral-maintained `tokio-tar` fork (#11174)
## Summary
I shipped one security fix here along with several significant
performance improvements for large TAR files:
- https://github.com/astral-sh/tokio-tar/pull/2
- https://github.com/astral-sh/tokio-tar/pull/4
- https://github.com/astral-sh/tokio-tar/pull/5
I also PR'd the security fix to `edera-dev`
(https://github.com/edera-dev/tokio-tar/pull/4).
