Special case missing header build errors (on linux) (#354)
One of the most common errors i observed are build failures due to
missing header files. On ubuntu, this generally means that you need to
install some `<...>-dev` package that the documentation tells you about,
e.g. [mysqlclient](https://github.com/PyMySQL/mysqlclient#linux) needs
`default-libmysqlclient-dev`, [some psycopg
versions](https://www.psycopg.org/psycopg3/docs/basic/install.html#local-installation)
(i remember that this was always required at some earlier point) require
`libpq-dev` and pygraphviz wants `graphviz-dev`. This is quite common
for many scientific packages (where conda has an advantage because they
can provide those package as a dependency).
The error message can be completely inscrutable if you're just a python
programmer (or user) and not a c programmer (example: pygraphviz):
```
warning: no files found matching '*.png' under directory 'doc'
warning: no files found matching '*.txt' under directory 'doc'
warning: no files found matching '*.css' under directory 'doc'
warning: no previously-included files matching '*~' found anywhere in distribution
warning: no previously-included files matching '*.pyc' found anywhere in distribution
warning: no previously-included files matching '.svn' found anywhere in distribution
no previously-included directories found matching 'doc/build'
pygraphviz/graphviz_wrap.c:3020:10: fatal error: graphviz/cgraph.h: No such file or directory
3020 | #include "graphviz/cgraph.h"
| ^~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
compilation terminated.
error: command '/usr/bin/gcc' failed with exit code 1
```
The only relevant part is `Fatal error: graphviz/cgraph.h: No such file
or directory`. Why is this file not there and how do i get it to be
there?
This is even harder to spot in pip's output, where it's 11 lines above
the last line:

I've special cased missing headers and made sure that the last line
tells you the important information: We're missing some header, please
check the documentation of {package} {version} for what to install:

Scrolling up:

The difference gets even clearer with a default ubuntu terminal with its
80 columns:

---
Note that the situation is better for a missing compiler, there i get:
```
[...]
warning: no previously-included files matching '*~' found anywhere in distribution
warning: no previously-included files matching '*.pyc' found anywhere in distribution
warning: no previously-included files matching '.svn' found anywhere in distribution
no previously-included directories found matching 'doc/build'
error: command 'gcc' failed: No such file or directory
---
```
Putting the last line into google, the first two results tell me to
`sudo apt-get install gcc`, the third even tells me about `sudo apt
install build-essential`