fix(ext/node): sqlite `setAllowUnknownNamedParameters` error message (#31319)
Allows
https://github.com/nodejs/node/blob/v24.2.0/test/parallel/test-sqlite-named-parameters.js
to pass.
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## Summary by CodeRabbit
* **Bug Fixes**
* Corrected an error message for SQLite named parameters validation to
display the expected parameter name accurately.
* **Tests**
* Added new test coverage for SQLite named parameters functionality.
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