fix(ext/node): support TLS client resume compat tests (#34095)
This updates the node TLS polyfill to better match Node client session
behavior for TLS resume tests.
- honor mutable `tls.DEFAULT_MIN_VERSION` / `tls.DEFAULT_MAX_VERSION` in
client and server secure contexts
- expose client session values and session events for TLS 1.2 and TLS
1.3 resume flows
- enable `parallel/test-tls-client-resume.js` and
`parallel/test-tls-client-resume-12.js` in node compat config
