Add `adapter_only` option to `save_fsdp_model` and `load_fsdp_model` to only save/load PEFT weights (#2321)
* Add adapter_only option to save_fsdp_model and load_fsdp_model
* Gate with adapter_only
* Black format
* Change unwrapping behavior
* Use extract_model_from_parallel for model unwrapping
* Fix quality
* Move functions to utils files
* Fix quality