Fall back to the AITER kernel for flash_attention_2 on ROCm (#49608)
* Fall back to the AITER kernel for flash_attention_2 on ROCm
kernels-community/flash-attn2 has no ROCm build, so flash_attention_2 failed
on ROCm when the flash-attn package is not installed. Use
kernels-community/aiter-flash-attn there, as flash_attention_3 already does.
* Add a ROCm test for the flash_attention_2 AITER fallback