[`StableLm`] Add QK normalization and Parallel Residual Support (#29745)
* init: add StableLm 2 support
* add integration test for parallel residual and qk layernorm
* update(modeling): match qk norm naming for consistency with phi/persimmon
* fix(tests): run fwd/bwd on random init test model to jitter norm weights off identity
* `use_parallel_residual`: add copy pointer to `GPTNeoXLayer.forward`
* refactor: rename head states var in `StableLmLayerNormPerHead`
* tests: update test model and add generate check