Add tie_weights() to LM heads and set bias in set_output_embeddings() (#28948)
* Add tie_weights() to LM heads and set bias in set_output_embeddings()
The bias were not tied correctly in some LM heads, and this change should fix that.
* Moving test_save_and_load_low_cpu_mem_usage to ModelTesterMixin
* Adding _tie_weights() to MPNet and Vilt
* Skip test for low cpu mem usage for Deta/DeformableDetr since they cannot init on meta device
* Rename to test name to save_load to match the convention