Exclude the load balancing loss of padding tokens in Mixtral-8x7B (#28517)
* fix the function load_balancing_loss_func in Mixtral_Moe to include attention_mask
* format code using black and ruff
* skip computing mask if attention_mask=None
* add tests for load balancing loss Mixtral-Moe
* fix assert loss is different in mixtral_test
* fix pad_leng
* use assertNotAlmostEqual and print to debug
* remove print for debug
* minor updates
* reduce rtol and atol