[UR] Use pre-installed compute-runtime L0 headers if found (#18276)
I'm trying to make dpcpp more friendly to packaging by Linux distros,
and we should be using system-installed dependencies by default.
Find the system-installed compute-runtime headers and use them if they
exist instead of downloading the upstream repo.
Also fix an include that doesn't work with system headers.
Signed-off-by: Sarnie, Nick <nick.sarnie@intel.com>