chore(data/finset/sort): upgrade `finset.mono_of_fin` to an `order_iso` (#5495)
* Upgrade `finset.mono_of_fin` to an `order_embedding`.
* Drop some lemmas that now immediately follow from `order_embedding.*`.
* Upgrade `finset.mono_equiv_of_fin` to `order_iso`.
* Define `list.nodup.nth_le_equiv` and `list.sorted.nth_le_iso`.
* Upgrade `mono_equiv_of_fin` to an `order_iso`, make it `computable`.