chore(data/multiset/basic): rename theorems, mark as `simp` (#15883)
This PR does the following:
- rename `coe_nil_eq_zero` to `coe_nil`.
- rename `singleton_eq_cons` to `cons_zero`, flip direction, mark `simp` (we prefer `{a}` over `a ::ₘ 0`).
- add lemmas `coe_singleton` and `singleton_eq_cons_iff`.
- ditch `singleton_coe` in favor of `cons_zero` and `coe_singleton`.
- mark `singleton_add`, `singleton_inj`, `nodup_singleton` as `simp`.
- unmark `count_singleton_self` as `simp`, since it can now be solved automatically via `count_eq_one_of_mem`.