refactor(algebra/big_operators/order): use `to_additive` (#7173)
* Replace many lemmas about `finset.sum` with lemmas about `finset.prod` + `@[to_additive]`;
* Avoid `s \ t` in `finset.sum_lt_sum_of_subset`.
* Use `M`, `N` instead of `α`, `β` for types with algebraic structures.