refactor(category_theory/monoidal): prove coherence lemmas by coherence (#13406)
Now that we have a basic monoidal coherence tactic, we can replace some boring proofs of particular coherence lemmas with `by coherence`.
I've also simply deleted a few lemmas which are not actually used elsewhere in mathlib, and can be proved `by coherence`.
Co-authored-by: Scott Morrison <scott.morrison@gmail.com>