chore(topology/algebra/ordered): fix assumptions in some lemmas (#3629)
* Some `nhds_within_I??_eq_nhds_within_I??` lemmas assumed strict
inequalities when this was not needed.
* Remove TFAEs that only stated equality of three `nhds_within`s.
Prove equality of `nhds_within`s instead.
* Genralize `I??_mem_nhds_within_I??` to `order_closed_topology`.