[Clang] Only define `wchar_size` module flag if non-standard (#184668)
Summary:
This PR simply changes the behavior of the `wchar_size` flag. Currently,
we emit this in all cases for all targets. This causes problems during
LLVM-IR linking, specifically because this would vary between Linux and
Windows in unintuitive ways. Now we have an llvm::Triple helper to
determine the size from the known values. The module flag will only be
emitted if these do not match (indicating a non-standard environment).
In addition to fixing AMDGCN bitcode linking, this also means we don't
need to bloat *every* IR module compiled by clang with this flag. The
changed tests reflects this, one less unnecessary piece of metadata.