[SmallPtrSet] Optimize Grow and inline FindBucketFor. NFC (#206304)
During rehashing every key is known absent, so skip the equal-key
comparison.
DenseMap got a similar optimization in #200595
FindBucketFor is then only used by insert_imp_big; inline its probe loop
there. The loop takes 7 inst instead of 9 in the clang-generated
assembly after removing the two `LLVM_LIKELY`.