fix(comm): bounded handshake gates the custom AR — PCIe P2P hangs fall back
The flag protocol's spin hangs on PCIe P2P pairs (A40: watchdog kill at
480s) where NVLink honors it; publish-and-wait probe with a bounded
spin disables the fast path gracefully instead.
Signed-off-by: Guokai Ma <guokai.ma@intel.com>