[op-builder] use unique exceptions for cuda issues (#4653)
Another follow-up to
https://github.com/microsoft/DeepSpeed/commit/4f7dd7214b1d81dbbdff826015a67accc10390d2
based on offline discussion w. @tjruwase
/cc @loadams
Co-authored-by: Logan Adams <114770087+loadams@users.noreply.github.com>
