[SP] add SP deny list instead of allow (#7887)
this way one can register kernels based flash-attn as well with SP
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Signed-off-by: Kashif Rasul <kashif.rasul@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: Masahiro Tanaka <81312776+tohtana@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: Logan Adams <114770087+loadams@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: Olatunji Ruwase <tunji.ruwase@snowflake.com>
Co-authored-by: Stas Bekman <stas00@users.noreply.github.com>
