Move memory info into IAllocator (#2850)
- Update IAllocator setup to move the OrtMemoryInfo to the base class instead of requiring derived classes to have that as a member and override a virtual method to return it.
- Cleanup CreateAllocator setup to take an argument as to whether to wrap the device allocator in an arena allocator. The choice to do that isn't a property of the underlying device allocator.
- Minor cleanups in the various EPs to adjust to the change to IAllocator and CreateAllocator, and to use the create_arena flag consistently when available.
