Remove usage of TRT deprecated APIs (#18879)
### Description
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- Wrap usage of kENABLE_TACTIC_HEURISTIC around version checking macros
- Use delete instead of deprecated destroy() functions on TRT objects.
### Motivation and Context
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- Removes usages of deprecated TRT APIs.
Signed-off-by: Kevin Chen <kevinch@nvidia.com>
