[js] optimize eslint config (#18460)
### Description
optimize eslint config to:
- set parserOptions.project to `true` to allow @typescript-eslint/parser
to find the nearest tsconfig.json file to that source file. This helps
to avoid parsing extra files, may helps with:
- reduce the possibility of seeing OOM or stackoverflow with "npm run
lint"
- faster processing
- enforce rule "no-underscore-dangle" with a list of exceptions.
