Cleanup SessionState. Move allocator lookup to SessionState. (#4194)
* Move allocators to SessionState so they're decoupled from ExecutionProviders
- when looking up an allocator it's based on OrtMemoryInfo not the EP so SessionState is a more natural place for that infromation to be stored
- add device based lookup
- simplifies logic for copying feeds/fetches across devices
Cleanup SessionState and SessionStateInitializer
- provide more things to SessionState at construction time so we don't construct and instance and immediately after call a bunch of setters
- simplify SessionStateInitializer
- reduced down to FinalizeSessionState method