use OrtCustomOp's new API GetMayInplace in CreateKernelCreateInfo (#20037)
### Description
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use OrtCustomOp's new API GetMayInplace in CreateKernelCreateInfo to
hook the inplace map of custom ops
### Motivation and Context
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This PR is to use OrtCustomOp's new API GetMayInplace in
CreateKernelCreateInfo to hook the inplace map of custom ops