Temporarily enforce "Debug build" TRT EP with trt oss parser on Windows (#17059)
This PR handles two changes:
1. There is an issue when running "Debug build" TRT EP with "Release
build" TRT builtin parser on Windows. Enforce use oss parser for Debug
build.
Note: args.config in build.py is an array, for example ["Debug",
"Release"...]. The code will be much mess if we made the change there.
2. Update to use latest commit of oss parser.
Please see the https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/issues/16273