Refine `op_types_to_quantize` argument handling in matmul_4bits_quantizer.py (#21815)
### Description
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Refine `op_types_to_quantize` argument handling in
matmul_4bits_quantizer.py
### Motivation and Context
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The default `op_types_to_quantize "MatMul"` will cause
`tuple(args.op_types_to_quantize)` to become `('M', 'a', 't', 'M', 'u',
'l')`, which is not expected.