[TensorRT EP] make --use_tensorrt_builtin_parser the default behavior in build.py (#15320)
Change the default behavior to link against the nvonnxparser library
(onnx-tensorrt parser) that is included with the TensorRT package.
Previously, the default behavior was to build and statically link
against the OSS onnx-tensorrt parser.
Historically, we wanted to incorporate the latest commits/fixes from OSS
parser.
These days the OSS parser is not significantly different from the
included parser library so there is less reason to build against it by
default.
By linking with parser shared library from TensorRT library, the major
benefit is it's much easier to
build/link against a minor version update of TensorRT. And OnnxRuntime
can be updated with a new TensorRT minor version by simply replacing
TensorRT libraries with the newer version. (because the parser is no
longer statically linked into onnxruntime)
Added --use_tensorrt_oss_parser to build.py to support the previous
default behavior. (build + static link OSS parser)