NVTX windows include and link fixes (#16831)
### Description
For windows headers are not duplicated to the normal cuda include. For
linux they are:
```
(base) maximilianm@maximilianm-dt-linux:~$ ls /usr/local/cuda/include/nvtx3 | grep nvTool
nvToolsExt.h
nvToolsExtCuda.h
nvToolsExtCudaRt.h
nvToolsExtOpenCL.h
nvToolsExtSync.h
(base) maximilianm@maximilianm-dt-linux:~$ ls /usr/local/cuda/include | grep nvTool
nvToolsExt.h
nvToolsExtCuda.h
nvToolsExtCudaRt.h
nvToolsExtOpenCL.h
nvToolsExtSync.h
```
Is the preference via those added defines or should the include just be
changed to be `nvtx3/` ?
Also there is no library linking needed on Windows and the library is
not even present.
