[CUDA] upgrade cudnn front end to 1.12 (#24977)
### Description
Upgrade cudnn front end to 1.12
### Motivation and Context
https://github.com/NVIDIA/cudnn-frontend/releases/tag/v1.12.0
This replaces previous attempt to upgrade cudnn front end to 1.11:
https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/pull/24189
