[CUDA] Add TensorRT fused attention fp16 v2 kernels (#12814)
* Add TensorRT fused attention fp16 kernels
* drop sm 72; seq 512 for sm75; and head_size 32 kernels
* Add env variable ORT_DISABLE_FUSED_ATTENTION
* exclude files in hipify
* update AttentionPastState_dynamic test threshold
* fix --use_mask_index in benchmark