Update bert benchmark: replace deprecated API (#22611)
### Description
(1) tokenizer.max_model_input_sizes was deprecated. Use
tokenizer.model_max_length to replace it.
(2) onnx opset updated to 16 instead of 11/12 for models.
(3) Update a few comments related to torch installation.
(4) Test gpu instead of cpu in dev_benchmark.cmd.
### Motivation and Context
Update bert benchmark script so that it can run with latest huggingface
transformers package.
