Upgrade xnnpack to latest (#25275)
### Description
This change is based on #25135.
Upgrade xnnpack and several related third-party dependencies, including
pthreadpool, cpuinfo, and kleidiai. This change also updates the xnnpack
execution provider code to accommodate changes in the xnnpack api.
Average pooling qu8 is removed as the corresponding microkernel seems no
longer exist in xnnpack.
