Updates to apple packaging (#21611)
### Description
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Add ability to test packaging without rebuilding every time.
Add ability to comment out some platforms/architectures without the
scripts to assemble the c/obj-c packages breaking.
Update a couple of commands to preserve symlinks.
### Motivation and Context
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Make debugging packaging issues faster.
Creates correct package for mac-catalyst and doesn't require setting
symlinks via bash script.
