Better support for cmake 3.26 and Windows ARM64 (#15704)
### Description
In #8953 I introduced a change in our onnxruntime_mlas.cmake that it
enables "ASM_MASM" cmake language for all Windows build.
```cmake
enable_language(ASM_MASM)
```
Before the change, it is only enabled when onnxruntime_target_platform
equals to x64.
However, cmake 3.26 added a new language: ASM_MARMASM.
According to cmake's manual,
ASM_MASM is for Microsoft Assembler
ASM_MARMASM is for Microsoft ARM Assembler. This one is new in cmake
3.26.
We should choose the right one according to
${onnxruntime_target_platform}.
