[EP ABI] API to get external initializer info + lazy load external OrtValues (#25482)
### Description
- Adds APIs to get information (file path, file offset, byte size) for
initializers with data in external files. This allows EPs to do their
own custom memory-mapping of initializer data. By default, EPs that
don't have specific requirements can still use
`ValueInfo_GetInitializerValue` to get an `OrtValue` with memory-mapped
initializer data.
- Updates `OrtGraph` to only load `OrtValue` for external initializers
on demand. This prevents having to memory map all external initializers
before the first call to `OrtEp::GetCapability`.
Follow up to https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/pull/25320
New API functions:
| Function | Summary|
|-----------|--------------|
| `ValueInfo_GetExternalInitializerInfo` | Get
`OrtExternalInitializerInfo` from `OrtValueInfo` (or `NULL`). Must be
released with `ReleaseExternalInitializerInfo`|
| `ReleaseExternalInitializerInfo` | Releases the
`OrtExternalInitializerInfo` instance |
| `ExternalInitializerInfo_GetFilePath` | Returns the relative path to
the file that stores the initializer's data |
| `ExternalInitializerInfo_GetFileOffset` | Returns the byte offset
within the file where the initializer's data is stored |
| `ExternalInitializerInfo_GetByteSize` | Returns the size in bytes of
the initializer's data within the file |
### Motivation and Context
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Co-authored-by: Dmitri Smirnov <dmitrism@microsoft.com>
Co-authored-by: Scott McKay <skottmckay@gmail.com>