Fix SkipLayerNormFusion incorrectly setting modified every time it runs (#21502)
### Description
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Current behavior forces all L2 optimizers to loop until they hit the max
number of iterations.
Only update modified if the graph was modified.
### Motivation and Context
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Fix unnecessary loops of L2 optimizers during model loading.