[c10d] Start deprecating *_multigpu APIs (#85961)
### Deprecation reasons:
- For most users training is on one GPU per process so these APIs are rarely used
- They added one more API dimension
- They can be expressed in a composed manner
- They are not abstracted – specific to GPU
- They caused backend APIs and implementations to have nested `std::vector<std::vector<Tensor>>`, which is hard to read or maintain
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/85961
Approved by: https://github.com/XilunWu, https://github.com/H-Huang
