[FSDP][optim_state_dict][8/N] Enable fully_shard optim state_dict save and load (#91234)
**What does this PR do?**
This PR refactor `_optim_utils.py` to use `_FSDPState` instead of `FullyShardedDataParallel` class. This change enables the support of optim state_dict for `fully_shard`.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/91234
Approved by: https://github.com/rohan-varma
