Weak-ref-ify MetaConverter and FakeTensorConverter (#80544)
Make `MetaConverter` and `FakeTensorConverter` hold weak references to their memoized tensors, and also have `MetaConverter` hold weak reference to Tensor storage. Otherwise it can be tricky for users to make sure all existing FakeTensors or FakeTensorModes are deleted which otherwise will leak memory.
I ran into https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/issues/7733 which I was able to get around with the following (see comment from code):
```
# torch.Tensors cannot be used as a key in a dictionary
# because they define a custom __eq__ function which when used
# to resolve hash collisions will throw when comparing tensors:
# "RuntimeError: bool value of Tensor with more than one value is ambiguous."
# To avoid that, we use an object which will hold a Tensor and use
# its id for both hashing and equality.
# In order to use this as a weak key reference, we cannot
# simply use weakref.WeakKeyDictionary because the newly constructed
# WeakTensorRefKey only use would be a dictionary so it would have no strong
# references.
# To get around this issue, we can use it as a normal key, and then set
# `weakref.finalize` to delete the key when its contained tensor dies.
```
While for the tensor memo we can set a `weakref.finalize` callback that will remove the corresponding `WeakTensorRefKey` from the tensor memo, at the point that this callback is invoked the tensor storage is not yet deallocated.. See comment from code:
```
# [expired-storages]
# NB: even though the tensor has died,
# the deallocation of its storage can take longer,
# even when the storage has no other uses/views.
# In this case, the StorageWeakRef object will be kept alive
# longer than it needs to be, however the storage itself
# will be deallocated. We retain the possibly dead storages
# and periodically check if any of them are expired and
# can be freed.
```
partial fix for https://github.com/pytorch/torchdynamo/issues/468
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/80544
Approved by: https://github.com/ezyang
