add sym_strides() function, use in fake/proxy tensors (#81300)
Add `TensorImpl::sym_strides`, bind it to python with `torch.ops.aten.sym_strides`, and use it in `ProxyTensor` and `FakeTensor`.
Before, `ProxyTensor` was generating `ProxySymInt`'s for the sizes, but not for the strides. Internally we still represent strides with a `SymIntArrayRef` though, so I ran into some weird issues where sizes were showing up as `ProxySymInt`, but strides were `PySymInt`'s.
Differential Revision: [D38594558](https://our.internmc.facebook.com/intern/diff/D38594558)
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/81300
Approved by: https://github.com/ezyang
