Switch off USE_DISTRIBUTED on default for MSVC (#20302)
Summary:
Fixes https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/issues/20250
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/20302
Differential Revision: D15277733
Pulled By: ezyang
fbshipit-source-id: a8915939d033a04f962908d19bbad840b6234e27
