[reland] Gate DistributedOptimizers on RPC availability (#62937)
Summary:
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/62937
reland due to windows + cuda failure, fix by running it on gloo on windows even with cuda.
ghstack-source-id: 135306176
Test Plan: ci
Reviewed By: mrshenli
Differential Revision: D30177734
fbshipit-source-id: 7625746984c8f858648c1b3632394b98bd4518d2
