Revert D24667127: [c10d] switch ProcessGroupNCCL:Options to be managed by intrusive_ptr
Test Plan: revert-hammer
Differential Revision:
D24667127 (https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/commit/ae5c2febb912066f1a8dec8b54451c09195b2c6d)
Original commit changeset: 54986193ba1b
fbshipit-source-id: 12e1ebea1981c0b1b6dff4c8a2e2045878d44537
