[CUDA graphs] hotfix for test_graph_ (#64339)
Summary:
Graphed workloads that try to capture a full backward pass must do warmup on a non-default stream. If warmup happens on the default stream, AccumulateGrad functions might tag themselves to run on the default stream, and therefore won't be capturable.
ngimel and I suspect some test_cuda.py tests run with the default stream as the ambient stream, which breaks `test_graph_grad_scaling` because `test_graph_grad_scaling` does warmup on the ambient stream _assuming_ the ambient stream is a non-default stream.
This PR explicitly sets a side stream for the warmup in `test_graph_grad_scaling`, which is what I should have done all along because it's what the new documentation recommends.
I pushed the PR branch straight to the main pytorch repo because we need to run ci-all on it, and I'm not sure what the requirements are these days.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/64339
Reviewed By: mruberry
Differential Revision: D30690711
Pulled By: ngimel
fbshipit-source-id: 91ad75f46a11f311e25bc468ea184e22acdcc25a
