Adding warning on isend about modifying after send (#61875)
Summary:
This is a standard limitation on communication collective libraries. For example:
https://www.open-mpi.org/doc/v4.0/man3/MPI_Isend.3.php
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A nonblocking send call indicates that the system may start copying data out of the send buffer. The sender should not modify any part of the send buffer after a nonblocking send operation is called, until the send completes.
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http://openucx.github.io/ucx/api/latest/html/group___u_c_p___c_o_m_m.html#ga8323878b60f426c630d4ff8996ede3cc
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The user should not modify any part of the buffer after this operation is called, until the operation completes.
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Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/61875
Reviewed By: suo
Differential Revision: D29783720
Pulled By: mrshenli
fbshipit-source-id: 78fd047c74449f77b906f3766a6c2bc29499847d
