Fix meta registration for _flash_attention_forward() (#119812)
Meta registration wrongly assumes 4D inputs, while the underlying op allows 3D inputs for the `mha_varlen_fwd()` case.
Testing: I added `detach()`es so the NJT test `test_sdpa_compile()` won't fail for a view-related reason. It should pass now with this fix.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/119812
Approved by: https://github.com/drisspg
