Raise error in clip_grad_norm_ if norm is non-finite (#53843)
Summary:
**BC-breaking note**: This change throws errors for cases that used to silently pass. The old behavior can be obtained by setting `error_if_nonfinite=False`
Fixes https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/issues/46849
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/53843
Reviewed By: malfet
Differential Revision: D27291838
Pulled By: jbschlosser
fbshipit-source-id: 216d191b26e1b5919a44a3af5cde6f35baf825c4
