make ProcessGroupDefaultTimeout the same as python (#56549)
Summary:
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/56549
This make the `kProcessGroupDefaultTimeout` be the same as the python
side, and python side directly use the pybind value instead
Test Plan: Imported from OSS
Reviewed By: rohan-varma
Differential Revision: D27899190
Pulled By: wanchaol
fbshipit-source-id: 388a7f42358b0abed75cf4934fb7b311fd33fee6
